There are three phases to alcoholism-addiction, in terms of readiness for recovery. First of all, we are content with our substance use, usually in denial about addiction to it, and we don't want to quit -- even if we could. Second, we become aware of the negative effects it's having on our lives, we begin to feel physically, mentally, and spiritually sick, and we realize we need to stop our substance use. In this phase, we cling to the belief that we can quit by ourselves, despite multiple failures at it. We "cherry-pick" small amounts of help, but we still need to be in control. Third, we become so desperate to quit that we are finally ready to admit that we are unable to do it ourselves and are willing to surrender to help. We have reached our "bottom."
The barriers to readiness to accept help are mostly psychological. Alcoholism/addiction is very much driven by the disordered thought processes that are part of the disease. This disordered thinking encourages us to continue drinking or using.
Keeping the door open
There is an inherent drive in alcoholic-addicts to "keep the door open a crack." This means keeping the option of picking up drugs or alcohol "just in case." Just in case we have a stressful day, or it ends up being too hard going without it. Only when an alcoholic-addict is ready to close this door completely will recovery be possible. Any time we leave that door open, even just a crack, we will always end up going through it eventually, usually before very long. Leaving the door open a crack can mean leaving our dealer's number on our phone, not telling our family and friends that we are committed to quitting, returning to places or situations where we drank or used, and holding ourselves back from full commitment to a program of recovery. A part of this holding back, leaving the door open, has to do with being overwhelmed by the thought of life without our security blanket of our drug. We don't see how it's possible. See my post about this (I'm Overwhelmed!) Click Here"I got this!"
There is a highly characteristic quirk of psychology that we see in virtually all alcoholics and addicts. They need to be in control, even when their life is spirally out of control. When they come to a point where they want top stop drinking or using they have to be in charge of it, and do it their way. They may "cherry-pick" some help here and there, but they always have to be in charge. And they fail, time after time. Anyone who has a loved one who is an active addict or alcoholic has likely heard them "this time I'm quitting for good!" "I got this!" And we know how that ends up. This need to be in control is part of the disease, but it's also related to a need to keep that door open, as we just discussed. I do a lot of service work at a detox facility and I see hundreds of people who are desperate to get off drugs or alcohol, but not quite ready to "let themselves go" - to commit 100% to a program of help that can help them get sober. We see the same people coming back into detox in deathly shape time and time again until one day they just get it and let go. At that point we usually see a miraculous change as they finally find sobriety and life again.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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